So let’s get real for a moment about something I am currently battling with and praying about ya’ll….
My husband is someone who is always open to feedback from me (or anyone) but recently, I noticed that whenever I gave feedback, it turned into a larger discussion about me and my delivery. My initial reaction is “Why is he making it about me when it should really be about him?!” My defensive walls go waaaayyyy up, making it hard for me to see the bigger picture and instead more focused on trying to validate the feedback I gave but I’ve been going about it all wrong.
I had to examine my intentions when giving him feedback and to be honest I can get really petty. I’m talking add-something-extra-into-the-conversation-that-has-nothing-to-do-with-nothing-just-for-the-sake-of-getting-it-out type of petty which only ever takes away from the point I’m making.
” I may be able to speak the languages of human beings and even of angels, but if I have no love, my speech is no more than a noisy gong or a clanging bell.” – 1 Corinthians 13:1 (GNB)
This verse beautifully sums up the point that a lack of love when we speak completely voids the message we want to send. How can my husband pay attention to the feedback I give him when my pettiness turns my truthful feedback into “a noisy gong or a clanging bell”? Noisy gongs and clanging bells are not only loud, they are distracting! I want to speak life into any interactions I have, especially ones with my husband. I don’t want to add any distractions. I am sure you don’t want to either. I am better than this, you are better than this, and certainly the purpose God has for our lives is better than this.
As I seek God’s guidance in helping me act solely out of love, I encourage anyone who can relate to this to join me in this as well. There’s a lot of truth and wisdom God has placed inside of us to help and serve his children, but blessings are being missed (for both you and the person you are speaking to) when we substitute love for our flesh. Until next time loves!